Girl you're beautiful and so many options ++
I recommend Maybelline Lifter gloss for a good d/s option. Just the regular ones though. +
Have you tried Milani lip fetish in Poppy or Seduce?
Milani Fleur
Milani Kiss cream Nude Kiss
Milani Blushing Berry
a soft taupe look with a couple of shades from and EL gwp palette and a couple of matte shades in >>
Stila Calligraphy Lip Stain in "Susan" as a base, topped with Milani +